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Her is my 2-1/2 cents: Bought our daughter a 2019 Forester about 4 months after I bought my AWD Passport and while I cannot address your tire wear issues, I will say that the Passport was over $10k more but is worth every penny!
Also, I do not live in a snowy or even rainy environment, and have never owned an AWD (or a 4WD) vehicle in my life, but absolutely LOVE the Passport AWD and will probably get AWD's always going forward, as they are safer and more stable, that is why EVERY Subaru is AWD, (they know...)!
And lastly, as hard as this may be to hear... your wife is RIGHT...!
Her is my 2-1/2 cents: Bought our daughter a 2019 Forester about 4 months after I bought my AWD Passport and while I cannot address your tire wear issues, I will say that the Passport was over $10k more but is worth every penny!
Also, I do not live in a snowy or even rainy environment, and have never owned an AWD (or a 4WD) vehicle in my life, but absolutely LOVE the Passport AWD and will probably get AWD's always going forward, as they are safer and more stable, that is why EVERY Subaru is AWD, (they know...)!
And lastly, as hard as this may be to hear... your wife is RIGHT...!